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Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

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Post by calebdanvers on Fri Jan 23, 2009 5:29 pm

came out on the nst today. but the news excerpt below was extracted from http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,24946317-1243,00.html?from=public_atom. you can also watch the sermon being delivered in video form at the web address.


A MELBOURNE Muslim at the centre of a storm over a lecture where he apparently directed his followers to hit their wives and force them to have sex reportedly says his message was taken out of context.
Coburg mosque cleric Samir Abu Hamza has told a confidant his message about hitting was meant in a metaphorical sense.

Prime Minister Kevin Rudd and Islamic leaders have condemned the lecture.

Mr Rudd said Mr Hamza's comments had no place in modern Australia.

During a 2003 lecture also posted on the internet late last year, Mr Hamza told followers that under Islamic law, men could demand sex from their wives.

Despite Australian law requiring consent, it was impossible for a man to rape his wife even if she refused to have sex, he said.

"Under no circumstances is sexual violence permissible or acceptable in Australia - under no circumstances,'' Mr Rudd said.

"Under no circumstances are other forms of violence, physical violence, acceptable towards women in Australia nor are they acceptable in my view to mainstream Muslim teachings.

"Australia will not tolerate these sort of remarks. They don't belong in modern Australia, and he should stand up, repudiate them and apologise.''

The President of the Islamic Council of Victoria (ICV) Ramzi Elsayed said he had spoken with Mr Hamza about the lecture, The Keys to a Successful Marriage.

"He told me he was speaking in a metaphorical sense,'' Mr Elsayed said.

"In regards to hitting your wife, his position is that it has always been metaphorical - it's not a whack, it's not a slap, it's a wake-up call.''

He said Islam did not condone violence against women or making a wife have sex with her husband against her will.

"He believes he was taken out of context insofar as he was talking about people who censure their spouses - it was not so much a physical hit as a metaphorical one to say wake up, we're heading for a divorce kind-of-thing,'' Mr Elsayed said.

But the senior honorary legal adviser to the Australian Federation of Islamic Councils, Haset Seli, hit out at Mr Hamza, calling him a lunatic.

"His lecture was absolutely ludicrous, unIslamic and highlighted the ignorance of the man,'' Mr Seli said.

He said anyone who thinks he can force his wife to have sex with him is a lunatic and certainly not a Muslim.

Mr Seli said he went through a similar episode with the former Mufti, Sheik Taj Aldin Alhilali, who caused a national uproar in a 2006 Ramadan speech when he likened scantily clad women to uncovered meat, suggesting they were to blame for sexual attacks on them.

He also claimed at the time that his comments had been taken out of context.

"Statements like (Mr Hamza's) are about as helpful to Islam as a lunatic parading himself as an imam,'' Mr Seli said.

The Federation of Ethnic Communities Councils of Australia (FECCA) said violence against women in any form was unacceptable.

"There can be no cultural or religious defence for violence against women,'' said acting FECCA chair Beryl Mulder.

At the Islamic Information and Service Network of Australasia, which Mr Hamza runs in Melbourne, a staff member said the comments had been taken "absolutely out of context''.

"We do not hit our women, you can ask any Muslim woman and she will tell you that, it's not part of Islam,'' the male staff member, who did not want to be named, said.

Mr Hamza was on holiday somewhere in Melbourne for the next "couple of weeks,'' the man said.

Sherene Hassan, vice president of the ICV, said she was organising workshops for Victorian imams on the issue of domestic violence.

"There may be individuals who have interpreted this lecture as condoning violence against women - it's not the first time we have had this problem,'' she said.

She said imams will meet next week to plan workshops to find ways of discouraging domestic violence among their followers.


its rather confusing to me. i mean, when you said something like these, 'men could demand sex from their wives', 'it was impossible for a man to rape his wife even if she refused to have sex', how could they possibly mean you are not using force on your wives, making them have sex with you at their will? i dont see anything here being taken outta context. its so silly when they tried to cover their acts and said it's been taken outta context. hitting at someone inflicts pain whether or not it is so much a physical hit. and i guess that makes this statement "He believes he was taken out of context insofar as he was talking about people who censure their spouses - it was not so much a physical hit as a metaphorical one to say wake up, we're heading for a divorce kind-of-thing,'' by the president of the islamic council of victoria, ramzi elsayed, who had apparently spoken to samir abu hamza bout the matter, unacceptable and invalid.

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by rowanlim on Fri Jan 23, 2009 10:31 pm

I agree that this part:

Despite Australian law requiring consent, it was impossible for a man
to rape his wife even if she refused to have sex, he said.


is misleading...

Idiot arrogant man thinking he can get away with such degrading comments. I hope he rots in hell.

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by calebdanvers on Sat Jan 24, 2009 11:56 pm

i asked one of my muslim friends. you know what's even more interesting? i was taken aback by this. all of those statements that the imam loudly professed in his sermon were true. they apparently came from islamic teachings. the husband CAN hit the wife if she's disobedient, doesnt listen to him. as if the husband is right all the time!!??? i dont know why but i really cant take this fact.

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by asuramaru on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:03 am

aha caleb...
sabar2.....
member ko tu dah salah faham tu.....
memang Islam benarkan suami 'pukul' isteri....
tapi ade batasnya....
bukan setiap kali isteri salah kene pukul je....
and cara pukul bukanlah pakai besi/tali pinggang or anything yang ganas gile.....
Islam tak ajar keganasan terhadap isteri....
tapi kalau isteri dah berkelakuan melampaui batas barulah dibernarkan......
kalau setakat salah sket.....
tak perlu pun....
berbincang lebih baik.....

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by calebdanvers on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:05 am

^my friend did explain that to me actually. but i cant take the fact that only the husband is allowed to do that. what if the husband misbehaves? anything to rope him into the right course?

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Post by asuramaru on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:08 am

tak salah aku ade....
but didn't remember what......
maknanya Islam tak menyebelah 1 pihak je.....
tiap2 yang Islam ajar ade kebaikannya....
sori if that's hurt you....

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by calebdanvers on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:16 am

well, my friend explained to me the only thing that sides with the wife is she's promised a place in heaven if she listens to her husband. like how? go at it blindly?

another statement by that imam and i quote 'if the husband was to ask her for a sexual relationship and she's preparing the bread on the stove, she must leave it and come and respond to her husband, she must respond'. this came out on nst and i read it with dismay. my friend said he's right.

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Post by asuramaru on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:19 am

aha....
it's quite complicated to explain it to you......
it all stated on the holy Al-Quran....
i also still not menguasai all of this thing actually....
maybe if you want some good answer...
you can try to ask our ustaz at PIPI (Pusat Islam & Pembangunan Insan)......
sorry cannot get the right answer for you ok...

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by calebdanvers on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:21 am

hurm, yeah she did tell me all of these actually came off of the koran. i think humans are always bound to misinterpret.

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by Master Red Lion on Sun Jan 25, 2009 12:28 am

we as human, are given brain and free will to think... we dont go at something blindly... that's why, if you read papers, there are always cases where wife ask for divorce from the husband through the court of syariah...

this is the cases when the husband is misbehaves and the wife can't cope with it anymore... there's always solution to something...

and about your friend's statement that the wife is promised a place in heaven if she listen to her husband, it's not like listen to every and each husband's words... as long as what the husband ask is not against the rules, like the husband ask her wife to steal as an example or maybe her husband ask her to be a prostitute, if she listen she'll not be entitled for such privilege...

we dont take a statement or a sentence as one guide, instead cross reference is important... one statement may say something but there's another statement that will put it into limits... it's law thingy, we might not be able to interpret such things clearly... not our field... lol!!!

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by calebdanvers on Thu Jan 29, 2009 10:26 pm

^i believe what you mentioned was right. i've always said ppl tend to misinterpret. i think the more pious you are, the worst u'd become. all in all, i still think in this case the husband's got all the privileges. i just dont see anything that sides with the wife. im sorry but thats what i could see in this issue. i just cant accept the fact that the husband can HIT the wife. i have a mother and two older sisters. they are women and i cant take them being HIT AT. if we happen to agree that women are the weaker sex, then HITTING THEM is so NOT RIGHT. i know this issue could get touchy. just hope it wont spiral outta control.

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by satya_85 on Tue Feb 10, 2009 12:58 am

23 years of my life and hundreds of Muslim friends later I still haven't found the corrective methods for men who do wrong. Only the women have been suffering all this while. In Pakistan it became a norm for men to the noses of their wives who talk to other men. Cutting their noses!!! You gotta be kidding me if you say there are limits applied. In this hugely male dominated world the limits just aren't there. When Amnesty Int. spoke about this to King Abdullah (the ruler of Saudi Arabia) he said it wasn't wrong. Coming from the founders of the religion, I find it very disturbing.

Also I'd love if someone explained to me the logic of suppressing women in order to reduce sex crimes. Women are Hijab bound so that men wouldn't be tempted to rape/have sex with them? I have two issues regarding this. Firstly, instead of suppressing women why not discipline men? Isn't that the reason the religion came at the first place. Secondly, in this practice itself it can be clearly said that the religion is siding to the males. How many female prophets are there? In this case how do you propose we regulate the amount of 'allowed torture'?

Please I beg someone to answer this.

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Post by Aria on Tue Feb 10, 2009 2:21 am

eh...now u remind me....ada nabi perempuan tak?

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Re: Marital Sex in the eyes of Imam Samir Abu Hamza

Post by rowanlim on Tue Feb 10, 2009 2:27 am

I've no idea. I never heard of any.

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Post by redlers05 on Tue Feb 10, 2009 2:41 am

xdop, sumer Nabi dn Rasul adalah lelaki, kalu ade pn palsu semata2...zzz

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