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rowanlim wrote:Oh...I see...So if she is everything you want, she's not a virgin but she'll be faithful to you, you'll take her?

maybe yes.....

Yeah. I guess I should've put it more plainly: You've an amazing girl to be your wife. Then you learn she's not a virgin. How will that affect you?

rowanlim wrote:Bertaubat means?

bertaubat = repent

for me o...not much affect la...virgin only....not a big issue la....nowadays many people done it when they are bf n gf only....u think guys will ask "r u virgin?" like tat a?lol...moreover, not virgin anymore de gal normally good on bed.....oopsss... =P

X2. i dont see a problem with having a girlfriend or a wife who has lost her virginity to someone else. up to every individual on how they view this.

rowanlim wrote:Yeah. I guess I should've put it more plainly: You've an amazing girl to be your wife. Then you learn she's not a virgin. How will that affect you?

hmmmm....
quite tough sis....
maybe i will asked her how it happened.....
and if she had repented and promise not to do it anymore...
maybe i will consider about her....

I'm not that bothered if the guy isn't a virgin. I guess I'm asking because society has already planted this perception that it's okay for a guy to sleep around but if a girl does the same, she's perceived to be slutty etc.

for me hor...if the girl sleep with her ex bf before then never mind lo...bf n gf...sleep also not an issue ma...but if the girl is a sleeper....(eh i dont know should use wat words..correct me if i m wrong) then i think cant accept ba...unless u really love she lo....

Aria wrote:for me hor...if the girl sleep with her ex bf before then never mind lo...bf n gf...sleep also not an issue ma...but if the girl is a sleeper....(eh i dont know should use wat words..correct me if i m wrong) then i think cant accept ba...unless u really love she lo....

i think its a slut,like rowanlim said

well it's a tough question for rowanlim case,how does her virginity lost?and for me it's quite hard to accept if it was her willing that makes her virginity lost,maybe i should think for a week or two,since she's going to be my wife lo

How she lost it? I'm going with she had sex with her previous bf or something like that

Anyway she's fictional, I just wanted to know what you guys think about it.

Sengal wrote:

Aria wrote:for me hor...if the girl sleep with her ex bf before then never mind lo...bf n gf...sleep also not an issue ma...but if the girl is a sleeper....(eh i dont know should use wat words..correct me if i m wrong) then i think cant accept ba...unless u really love she lo....

i think its a slut,like rowanlim said

well it's a tough question for rowanlim case,how does her virginity lost?and for me it's quite hard to accept if it was her willing that makes her virginity lost,maybe i should think for a week or two,since she's going to be my wife lo

week or 2??? i could take months... maybe years...

I somehow just cant accept if someone purposely losing her virginity... I mean, I cant accept that a girl go out with some guys, sleep together and then do such things. as far as i know, there's not a single culture/religion in this world that allows sex before marriage but this has been made up by people for fun and somehow it happen to be a western culture.

okay, maybe if sumhow i married to a foreigner (english, american or somewhat like that) yes, i could just accept it that she lost her virginity to her ex-bf... just because she was in such environment and culture. for a malay muslim girl, to lose sumthing like that, and then married to me... hmmm... i might even go berserk... hahaha... anyway, if it's a case of rape or sumthin like that, i'll just accept... it's not her faults. but if it's because she thought it's fun to do that, and do it repeatedly before married... go out of my house!!!! hahaha...

ya ya... say whatever u want... it's me... "kolot", "mundur", "xikut peredaran zaman", whatever... there's a reason why HIV screening is compulsory now... hahahaha....

^hahahaha..i guess you've got a point there Master Red Lion. i can accept her past but that only happens if she deeply repents her misdeeds. and i certainly cant take her committing adultery. i mean, who can possibly tolerate their unfaithful spouse? i am positive i wont be able to forgive any girl who cheats on me and goes out with another guy when we're still seeing each other, in the process of getting hitched or have already gotten married. i agree with you on this Master Red Lion.

I don't think its kolot or mundur actually...For myself, I am keeping my virginity for the man I will marry; perhaps it's proof that he's special enough that I want to give him that part of me.

Then again, being inexperienced may lead me to give it up earlier only to find that he wasn't the one. Just wondering should that happen, would it diminish my future happiness?